Was not sure where to post this topic. I do apologize if it is not in the correct spot.

I have a daughter. And she has not been around her father in some time. Nothing has been set in court for visitation. He actually at one time went almost 2 years without calling her. Nor did he see her in those two years.

He did take me to court in the county he lives in to try for visitation rights.

The first time he had taken me to court. It had been dismissed because that court did not have jurisdiction. At that time we agreed that we would set up times for him to see our daughter. And he could as often as he wanted to.

So we meet several times. So they could get to know one another. He started calling every Sunday. Keep in mind it had been 2 years since they had seen each other or spoken to one another.

After several meetings we both decided we should try an over night stay. Things had appeared to go ok. Then when she came home that night she begn having nightmares. I was not sure why.

We set up another time for her to stay overnight. She refused to go. She was crying. Obviously she was not ready for such a transition. I told her bio-father that she did not want to come. He wanted to know why. So I talked with her.

She told me she was afraid of a boy that lives with her bio-father. When I asked her why, she said because he laid on top of me. So I called a hotline. And asked what I should do. They said to take her to the doctor to have her examined. The doctors found nothing. Thank goodness. But they did say that that did not mean anything had happened. They told me to take her to children services so they could talk to her. I set up a time for them to come to my home. They did. Then children services set up a time for me to bring my daughter in to speak with them. They said because she is so young it is hard to prove anything. But that she did express to them not wanting to be around this boy. She however did not tell them why. And they said the questions they would have to ask might traumatize her further. With her being so young they advised against the questions. Children services advised me to not send her for anymore overnights. And they told me to contact the bio-father and tell him. An explain to him why I would not be sending her.

So I did call him. He said there was no way that something like that would happen. I said I did not want to take the chance that something had happened. I tried giving him several options but not overnights at his house. He did not agree to any. I even tried getting his father and step mother involved. They also wanted nothing other than overnights. This went on for over a year. Again no seeing each ther for over a year. Because for him it was overnight or nothing. He did atleast keep calling her every sunday. Even though I told him he could call her more often because the calls were free for me and him.

So he takes me to court again just recently. He had not seen her again for over a year. Because of being stubborn. He took me to court in his county again. So it was dismissed again because of jurisdiction. And now it has been 4 weeks since he has called her.

If things do not go his way he takes it out on our daughter. I am sick of going in this same circle. ANd I refuse to send her on overnights. It is not fair to her. To her it would be like staying with a stranger.

She is now 5 years old. She starts kindergarten next school year.

Is there anything I can do to prevent him from coming in and out of her life. It is stressful for her. And I am so sick of watching his stubborness affect our daughter.

I don't want another year or two to go by without calls or visits. And have him pop up in the correct court and somehow get visitation. It would cause too much stress on our little girl. She is happy. We have a routine. I am married. The man I am with has been in our daughters life for almost 4 years now. She looks to him as a father. And we also have another child. So we are very family oriented.

Does our daughter have any rights that would prevent her father from doing this to her time and time again? It is just so unfair of him to continue to do this to her.